Healing Deep Hurt by Joanna Vannice
“I’m worthless…”
“I’m worthless… I want love from others, but I’m not good enough for it… I will always be a failure… No one wants me… I don’t even like myself.”
Do any of these phrases resonate with you? They have resonated with me at certain points, too. Beliefs like these often feel like a dark cloud hanging over your head, even when the sun is shining. In moments of joy, success, or contentment, they creep in and try to bring you down, leaving you feeling defeated. These beliefs—core wounds—can feel pervasive and impossible to overcome.
The Good News
Here’s the good news—actually, the incredible news: These core beliefs can change.
Within the context of safe, healthy relationships, our brains have the capacity to unlearn these negative beliefs and develop new ones that align with the person you want to become. Even the most deeply rooted negative beliefs that have been with us for years (or even decades) do not have to stick with us!
My utmost goal as a therapist is to co-create a safe space where you can confront those negative beliefs and engage with new, empowering ones. As we chip away at these harmful core beliefs and replace them with healthier ones, our identities can shift from one of shame, guilt, despair, and hopelessness to one of value, worth, freedom, love, and belonging.
It’s Okay to Feel Doubt
You might think, “this sounds too good to be true.” Honestly, I understand that.
But one of the beautiful things about the therapeutic relationship is that I will hold hope for you when it feels too heavy for you to carry. I can’t promise the work will be easy, but I can promise you are worth it.
You have so much to give—to yourself, your relationships, and the world. Your past is not too great to prevent you from experiencing fullness in the present.
If any of this resonates with you, I would love to connect with you! Reaching out is the hardest part - don’t delay your healing journey any longer! If I haven’t convinced you yet, here are a few examples of clients I have worked with in their journey of overcoming old core wounds:
“I’m worthless…”
“I’m worthless… I want love from others, but I’m not good enough for it… I will always be a failure… No one wants me… I don’t even like myself.”
Do any of these phrases resonate with you? They have resonated with me at certain points, too. Beliefs like these often feel like a dark cloud hanging over your head, even when the sun is shining. In moments of joy, success, or contentment, they creep in and try to bring you down, leaving you feeling defeated. These beliefs—core wounds—can feel pervasive and impossible to overcome.
The Good News
Here’s the good news—actually, the incredible news: These core beliefs can change.
Within the context of safe, healthy relationships, our brains have the capacity to unlearn these negative beliefs and develop new ones that align with the person you want to become. Even the most deeply rooted negative beliefs that have been with us for years (or even decades) do not have to stick with us!
My utmost goal as a therapist is to co-create a safe space where you can confront those negative beliefs and engage with new, empowering ones. As we chip away at these harmful core beliefs and replace them with healthier ones, our identities can shift from one of shame, guilt, despair, and hopelessness to one of value, worth, freedom, love, and belonging.
It’s Okay to Feel Doubt
You might think, “this sounds too good to be true.” Honestly, I understand that.
But one of the beautiful things about the therapeutic relationship is that I will hold hope for you when it feels too heavy for you to carry. I can’t promise the work will be easy, but I can promise you are worth it.
You have so much to give—to yourself, your relationships, and the world. Your past is not too great to prevent you from experiencing fullness in the present.
If any of this resonates with you, I would love to connect with you! Reaching out is the hardest part - don’t delay your healing journey any longer! If I haven’t convinced you yet, here are a few examples of clients I have worked with in their journey of overcoming old core wounds:
- A single mom finding true self-worth after years of rejection from her hyper-religious family
- An individual who was systematically abused believing for the first time that they do not deserve to be put down and used
- A woman who has come to understand she has an identity outside of her chronic illness
- A young adult who believes that they are worth living after years of believing that the world is better off without them